Dating Qualities Verses Relationship Qualities: How to Distinguish Between the Two...

Sometime earlier we had a discussion about, "When did dating become so difficult for women," in a prior blog post. In continuation to this, let me start out by stating dating qualities should not be mixed up with relationship qualities for obvious reasons. Such as that dating qualities are not necessarily meant to be taken serious. Dating Qualities are fun and exciting. You have your gentlemen suitors showing you the time of your life, wining and dining you, and possibly showering you with the most extravagant gifts. Sounds like you have got yourself a winner right??? He is your night and shining armor....Mr. Prince Charming...This type of guy might be acceptable in a fantasy world. However, the reality of it...is that this type of male is not the type you should look toward for a long term commitment. I will tell you why. This type of guy typically shows a lack of responsibility with financial obligations. When you put yourself in a relationship with this type, one or two things can happen: He will continue to try and live that carefree lifestyle as your night and shining armor and neglect financial responsibilities, or he will struggle to pacify you with the Prince Charming behavior that your relationship was based upon. If these same needs are not met then this is where problems will begin to surface in your relationship. Now let me give you this situation to think about: You have a man who tells you I only have 50 bucks to take you out for dinner and a movie tonight, I am a single parent of two children. Therefore, I can not afford to do but so much. Now...what do think about this guy? Hmmm....lol...most women will call him cheap and not give him the time of day. But I say to you....one must look deep inside an individual for a lasting mate. This guy shows honesty, responsibility, and devotion towards his family. His character shows that he endorses taking care of home first! Think about the scenarios that I have shared with you, because relationship qualities are far more complex then what you simply get from dating qualities.

Today is That Day...

Today is that day...I woke up this AM with a lot of worry and trouble on my heart. In today's society it appears that everyone has his/her share of pain. It feels like trials and tribulations come quicker then the speed of light. With all the tragedies that occur in today's world, how easy it for Christians to sustain such high faith in God? Especially with so many people questioning the mystery behind our daily guide "The Bible." I was asked this question by a fellow follower of Christ, How do respond to a non-believer who questions the true authority of God? Meaning, are you equipped spiritually for battle to answer the following questions: If God is the Creator, the Almighty, and the Alpha and Omega, why does he allow pain and suffering? How could He allow children to be born blind, mentally challenged, diseased, and several other deformities? If He is our Father and He loves us why does he allow these things to happen under His care and watch? Now, I say to you fellow brothers and sisters in Christ, these are questions that you should be spiritually equipped to answer. It is not good enough to say....."just have faith or you are just supposed to believe." The answer is simple...

TO BE CONTINUED,,,

When Did Dating Become so Difficult for Women?

Maya Angelou once stated that, "A woman's heart should be so in-wrapped in Christ that a man should seek Him first to find her." Have I said enough yet? Take it from me, dating isn't really all that complicated. I have noticed that many women these days just do not know how to date. Many woman mistake sex partners for a casual dining affair. Is there anything wrong with dating more than one man? NO, however, let me make this clear, EVERY MAN YOU DATE IS NOT INTENDED TO SEE YOUR BIRTHDAY SUIT. It appears a lot of women have the "I want a man complex." Meaning, they meet a man, go out on a date with him, possibly have sexual relations with him, and then THAT'S HER MAN....One thing that women must realize is that relationships should only be entered into if it has the prospect of becoming a committed relationship. If not, stop labeling all these men as your MAN...your BOO...or your boyfriend. Try taking your time by just dating and getting to know your possible mate.

Next....Confusion between Dating qualities and Relationship Qualities....TO BE CONTINUED....

Make The Best Of Your Time

Understand that God's Grace and Mercy is just as real as it has always been. Even in today's world, where we have Atheist and Humanist who try and contradict everything that the Holy Spirit and  the Bible teaches us.  God's Grace and Mercy gives relief to all of us that accepts Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior. His grace and mercy accepts the unworthy and ungrateful human beings like ourselves just as we are. You don't have to be perfect to accept Jesus into your life. If everybody were perfect why would we need Him as our Savior?  Start praying, forgiving, and doing God's will for your life. Make the Best of Your Time!

Great Morning to be Encouraged!

Life with a 5yr old, and 3yr old (that is not thirty because of his date of birth) is always a challenge. But "hey," I wouldn't change a thing about it. Seeing their smiles, the light shining in my little ones eyes is priceless. Oh, and let's not forget the constant, "mommy...mommy...mommy." Just how many times could it be possible to say mommy? My little ones have even made raps, nursery rhymes, and lullabies to call my name. I honestly tried counting one morning....hmmm??? I can't remember when I lost count. Was it before or after breakfast? Never the less, the beauty of being a parent is everlasting, and I will cherish each lasting moment.